This three-weekend training will provide maps and tools to work effectively with couples, utilizing mindfulness and experiential exercises. Covering the essentials of both assessment and intervention, you will learn how to identify and change a couple’s negative interactive cycles, address the underlying emotional wounds that cause them, and access the resources that are often hidden but innate in the relationship.

Couples communicate with each other in a fast, non-verbal way (using tone of voice, eye gaze, body posture, quality of touch etc.). Learning to track these somatic cues enables the therapist to notice the subtle messages each partner communicates to the other directly from their unconscious which shape the way they relate to each other.

Mindfulness is one of the most powerful tools in couples counseling. It allows clients to “act in” instead of “acting out” with each other. It assists them to gently access and talk about deep levels of delicate material that underlie the repetitive patterns in which they become mired. They can step out of adversarial and into more vulnerable and collaborative interactions.

Working experientially and somatically adds significant depth, impact and aliveness for therapist and client alike. Instead of simply talking about things, couples experience them directly and thereby gain deeper insight as well as tools for change.

Using a combination of talks, internal explorations, demonstrations and step-by-step actual practice, in this workshop you will learn the principles and practical interventions that use present moment experience. This is a hands-on workshop in which you will practice everything you learn. For therapists new to couples therapy this workshop will provide grounding in theory and skills for working with couples. For therapists who have been working with couples for a while, this workshop will refine your skills and will give you additional experiential and mindfulness tools to dramatically improve your current work.

Topics covered include:

  • Couples assessment
  • Most common couples patterns
  • How to access unconscious material through the body 
  • Working with present time experience
  • How to explore defenses by supporting them
  • Working with boundaries
  • Working with gestures, posture and tensions

Additional topics will include:

  • Couples sculptures
  • The use of touch in couples therapy
  • Converting blame into self-observation
  • Detrancing the transference through the body
  • Exploring and unwinding attachment issues with couples
  • How to enhance healthy differentiation while staying connected
  • Understanding how character theory can help unlock the essential hurts and strategies that cause suffering in couples
  • How to support individual defenses and resistance in a way that turns a partner into an precious ally.

For Whom

This training is open and relevant to clinicians and other health and helping professionals as well as the general public.


People without prior Hakomi training are required to take a two-day prerequisite entitled Hakomi Essential Skills to be able to most effectively use the material from this workshop.

To register for Hakomi Essential Skills, visit our calendar

About Hakomi

Hakomi Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy offers an elegant, comprehensive and highly effective approach to human change. Hakomi combines mindfulness, unique and powerful somatic techniques, and a focus on present experience to access and transform deeply held, life-limiting core beliefs. For over 30 years Hakomi has pioneered and integrated the use of mindfulness in the human change process. It is backed by thousands of hours of clinical applications and research into the neurological underpinnings of mindfulness. Psychotherapists can successfully use Hakomi in a wide range of applications including individual, couples and family therapy and group work. The Hakomi Method also offers cutting-edge skills for coaches, health professionals and others who work to support human change and growth.

Read more about Hakomi Mindful Somatic Psychology


October 30-November 1, 2020
December 11-13, 2020
February 26-28, 2021

Friday/Saturday: 9:00-4:30; Sunday 9:00-3:30

San Francisco Theological Seminary
105 Seminary Road

San Anselmo, CA  94960

Early Enrollment: $1,650 by September 18, 2020; $1,895 thereafter

VISA, Mastercard and American Express accepted

Cancellation Policy
Cancellations accepted via email or phone. If you cancel 45 days in advance of the first day of training, you will receive a full refund less a $25 admin fee. If you cancel between 30 and 44 days in advance of the first day of training, you will receive a 50% refund less a $25 administrative fee. No refunds will be granted less than 30 days before the first day of training. No refunds will be granted for non-attendance.

Class Schedule

Friday / Saturday

9:00-10:30 Learning activities
10:30-10:45    Break
10:45-12:15 Learning activities
12:15-1:45 Lunch
1:45-3:00 Learning activities
3:00-3:15 Break
3:15-4:30 Learning Activities


9:00-10:30 Learning Activities
10:30-10:45 Break
10:45-12:00 Learning Activities
12:00-1:00 Lunch
1:00-2:15 Learning Activities
2:15-2:30 Break
2:30-3:30 Learning Activities

All teaching is experiential and includes time for practice and feedback. Schedule subject to change. As an approved continuing education provider, Hakomi Institute of California is required to award CE credit for instructional time only; no CE credit will be granted for lunches and breaks.

Continuing Education

Psychotherapists: Hakomi Institute of California is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for LMFTs, LPCCs, LEPs, and/or LCSWs. Hakomi Institute of California maintains responsibility for this program/course and its content. This course meets the qualifications for 16 hours of continuing education credit per weekend (48 hours total) for LMFTs, LPCCs, LEPs, and/or LCSWs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences. CE approval agency: CAMFT. Provider number: 82187. We will email CE certificates within 30 days after each session of the course ends.

psycholigistCEULogoPsychologists: 48 CEs for psychologists (16 hours per weekend) are provided by the Spiritual Competency Resource Center (SCRC) which is co-sponsoring this program. SCRC is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. SCRC maintains responsibility for the program and its content. For questions about continuing education, visit www.spiritualcompetency.com or contact David Lukoff, PhD at CE@spiritualcompetency.com

View the learning objectives for week 1.

View the learning objectives for week 2.

View the learning objectives for week 3.


Please register early as space is limited.

Registration deadline: October 23, 2020

For More Information

For further details, including accommodation of special needs and information about our grievance process, please contact our administrator at 415-839-6788 or contact@hakomiCA.org


rob1 smRob Fisher, MFT (LMFT 22886), is a composer, author and internationally acclaimed trainer who teaches mindfulness, nature therapy and couples therapy in the US, Europe, Australia and Asia. A Certified Hakomi Therapist and Trainer, Rob is the author of Experiential Psychotherapy With Couples, A Guide for the Creative Pragmatist as well as chapters and articles on couples therapy and the psychodynamic use of mindfulness for Psychotherapy Networker, The Therapist, The Journal Of Couples Therapy, the USA Body Psychotherapy Journal, Psychotherapy in Australia and others. An advocate of the use of mindfulness and present moment experience in psychotherapy Rob serves as adjunct professor at JFK University. As a co-developer of the Mindfulness and Compassion in Psychotherapy Certificate Program at the California Institute of Integral Studies, he has brought together many leaders in the realms of mindfulness and psychotherapy to create one of the only programs in the US that not only teaches psychotherapeutic skills and techniques, but also helps participants develop their internal state.