Applying Hakomi to Couples Therapy


General Information

One of the main reasons why couples therapy is so challenging is that attachment patterns happen fast, underneath the conscious level and are very powerful. Couples respond to each other’s verbal and non-verbal cues (tone of voice, eye gaze, body posture, quality of touch etc.) and get caught in a reinforcing cycle.
In this workshop we will apply techniques from Hakomi, a Mindfulness-Based Experiential Psychotherapy, to working with couples. Therapists from any background will gain more tools to identify and transform relationship patterns by learning to track the body and use experiential exercises. Through a mix of your own personal experience and hands-on practice as a counselor you will learn to:

  • Track somatic cues that reveal attachment issues and the couple’s cycle
  • The 10 most common relationship patterns (beyond pursuer-distancer)
  • How to use body-based mindfulness to help couples study their negative cycle 
  • Develop familiarity with several Hakomi techniques, including tracking, contact statements, and experiments.

For Whom
The workshop is open and relevant to both clinicians and the general public and serves as prerequisite hours for The Hakomi Professional Training and Hakomi Comprehensive Training.

About Hakomi 
The Hakomi Method of Experiential Psychotherapy is an elegant, comprehensive and highly effective approach to human change. Hakomi combines mindfulness, the body, and present experience to access and transform deeply held, life-limiting core beliefs. For over 30 years Hakomi has pioneered and integrated the use of mindfulness in the psychodynamic process. It is backed by thousands of hours of clinical applications and research into the neurological underpinnings of mindfulness. Hakomi can be successfully applied throughout a wide range of therapeutic applications (such as individual, couples and family therapy, group work) as well as in educational settings to facilitate self-exploration and personal growth.

Please click here for more detailed information about the Hakomi Method.


Date: Saturday, June 14, 2014

Time: 9:30am -5:00pm

Location: San Jose, CA

• Early Enrollment by May 14: $125
• Regular: $160

VISA & Mastercard accepted.

Enrollment Deadline
Final deadline to Enroll: Thursady, June 12.  Please register before the workshop date as we can not accommodate walk-ins.   If the workshop is listed as full, you can still contact the Hakomi Institute and request to be put on a waiting list.    

Cancellation Policy   
Cancellations received by mail or phone seven days in advance of a 1-day workshop or fourteen days in advance of a 2 or 3-day workshop will receive a full refund minus a $25 administrative fee. There will be no refunds for cancellations received after the cancellation deadline.   

CEU’s Offered   
MFT & LCSW: This course meets the requirements for 6 hours of Continuing Education Units for MFTs and LCSW’s as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences. Provider # PCE 4355.
Nurses: Provider approved by the California Board of Registered Nursing, Provider # 14707 (a co-sponsor of this training), for 6 hours.  

To Register
Click on the Register Button at the bottom of this page.

More Information   
Contact Hakomi Institute of California (415) 839-6788 or email


Gal Szekely facebookGal Szekely, M.A., M.F.T, is a Certified Hakomi Therapist and Teacher and a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a private practice in San Francisco. Gal is passionate about working with couples and individuals on relationship issues and is the founder of The Couples Center, a relationship counseling and education center. Gal is an experienced speaker and he gives talks all around the bay area in the issues of relationships and cultural differences. Aside from a Masters in Counseling Psychology Gal also holds a Masters in Social-Organizational Psychology and has a background in the business world and as a management consultant. His work is influenced by a long time meditation practice, his appreciation of the body and a multicultural background.